Hello,

Our daughter is only 3 weeks, but we have already had people talk about her baptism/christening. We decided quite a while ago that we didnt want to have her baptised, as we are not religious at all.

My mum has already said we should be having her baptised. Before Claire was born, someone asked what her name will be, and when we told them, they went into their book to make sure it was a saints name so the church would allow us to baptise in that name. I made a comment that it doesnt matter because we arent baptising anyway, and was greeted with gasps of shock... Then MIL has gone out and bought a little dress for her to wear for her (not happening) chistening, without even asking us, so she has obviously just assumed without bothering to talk to us first. I think thats rude!

Anyway, I think I have waffled on enough, so I will get on with it.
I would just like to know if anyone else has found that their family had all these expectations that baptism would be occuring?
I have mentioned we wont be, and the response I get is "but you have to" and that sort of thing. I dont want to let them make me feel guilty about not baptising her.

Am I being selfish for not baptising her?
We dont attend church. DH believes in Buddhism. We want to let her be exposed to differnt faiths and let her make the decision later on as to what she will follow. Is that selfish?

I dont want to start a debate by the way, I just want to see other people point of views on this, in case I am totally missing something.

thanks