I have 4 yrs 10 mths bt 1 and 2, it was chosen this way but for financial considerations, so I prob would've had them closer if we had the means. It was good though as DD was able to do most things for herself and help out a bit too. There would have been 3yrs bt 2 and 3 but I had a mc so it became 3 and a half yrs and this gap was also good as 3 and a half yr old could also be a bit independent. Gap bt 3 and 4 is 18mths. It was def harder than the other age gaps as I have 2 babies, but it is also very nice to have 2 so close in age, no.3 adores no.4 and the older 2 are great helpers too.

In the end maybe mother nature will decide on your age gap too, it seems to be the way. Funnily enough, people I know who had 2 close together first up have decided they wouldn't have any more as they fond it so full on with a small age gap. Everyone is different though and maybe it depends on your kids too, whether they are sleepers etc.

Good luck which ever way it goes
Best wishes Michelle