it will be interesting to see what the next few days/weeks bring about with my twins. My nan died last week and we had her funeral today. Wonder how long it will take before they start talking to their gran again.
Papilion I am soo sorry for your loss. A similar thing happened to me when i had a loss at 12 weeks a year in sept 07. DS was all over the place and I could not ground him the week before . He was crying uncontrollably all week- he was nearly 5- so this was not something that he did normally. I would ask him why he was sad, and he didnt know why he was so upset! Everything was going well with the pg and have felt the baby move etc. At my 12 week scan, later that week- discovered bubs had died the day before- for unknow reasons. DS was upset, but no where as upset as he had been the week before- he knew what was happening even before i did. Afterwards he stopped crying and went back to being his normal self. He still talks about 'bobo' even to this day, and how much he misses the baby.
Another incident .. . .
my twins were born 10 weeks early- really sick etc. anyway he told me last school hols that when he was a baby, he was in the same hospital as one of the boys in another class. I asked him how he knew this, and he just said because he was! Silly me
I asked the boys mum about this and it turned out that yes we were in the same hossy, but they were in there 6 months before us and spent a long time in the same special care as well. I told her what my son had said and she smiled. Turns out that her DS was a twin and his twin had been in special care as well and had died in there!! So it wasnt his mate that he was seeing, but his ID twin brother!! He still remembers being sick as a baby- describing medical things that were wrong with him- equipment that he was on etc! Thing like- when i was born i could breath in but not breathe out- that is exactly correct and what CPAP is used for!!!
love sharing our stories with people who dont judge, but can empathise!




Reply With Quote


Bookmarks