It's a toughy isn't it! We were lucky in so far as we didn't have to think about it with our third. She wasn't planned so we never had to make that decision - she made it for us I often think if we hadn't of had her that we would be less squished in the house, I would have more free time, more money, more people willing to babysit the elder 2 etc. We have no family where we are so it can be very hard. She is also a very demanding, stubborn, easily frustrated child with red hair and a temper to match!

BUT...When I look at her and when she walks to me and kisses me and cuddles me I know that I would never have it any other way. I can't imagine not having her in our lives. She brings so much more to our family and so much more to the relationships we all have with each other.

I don't think anyone (except your DH) can help you with your decision, so good luck!

PS I am about to travel to the UK by myself with the 3 of them (7, 5, 16m) so you can still travel (although I might be advising you against it when I get back )