convincing Dh to reward DD

[Kitt3n]

Wow, she definately deserves a thankyou treat, especially if she has been doing all this without even being asked! What a gem, seriously!

Maybe not even anything massive - but defiantley something to show that her help is appreciated.

Maybe soemthing bigger than an icecream but smaller than a computer game, IYKWIM??

Maybe a special book, a trinket she has been longing for..... an afternoon with mummy all to herself, out for girly haircuts etc?

[foreva*your*mummy]

I agree with kitt3n, I think mayb you should get her something special but not to big.
she is being fantastic and should be rewarded.
I also love the idea of an afternoon out doing something to make her special and show you have noticed!!.

[~Kate~]

I think you should be so very proud of her, she has stepped up to help out and deserves a huge thankyou. Perhaps a girlie afternoon with you, or her choice of family outings. Something that doesn't necessarily scream 'bribe' but that makes her feel special. Even just letting her choose a movie to watch and dinner etc for a night. Once littleies are in bed she has you to herself...

[SugarDust]

What an angel you have there!

Definately something to reward her!

What about a locket necklace with a pic of you and her in it?

[Smoke Jaguar]

The fact that she's doing it unbidded means she's getting an intrinsic reward and it would be nice to recognise that (rather than 'reward') because what you don't want to do is say 'what you are doing is worth x' - and present her with something material. I think an outing with just her, you and the youngest is in order, where she can just enjoy herself and have non-carer time...a bit of mothering for the apprentice mummy may well be recognition enough without diminishing her efforts into a gift item

[Curly]

What a fabulous DD you have. What an angel!

Perhaps to help turn your DH around to your point of view, you could liken it to how mums (or dads for that matter) like to be shown appreciation for their efforts once in a while? IYKWIM? Not so much a reward but a gesture of recognition?

[paradise lost]

I agree with your DH that she is doing what a member of a family does, but i also agree with you that this is a cause for celebration and recognition

Perhaps you could get her a beautiful book, with blank pages, and write in the front what you have put here, how wonderful she is, what a help, what a support, how much you love her. A diary for her to write in, or maybe even a book for you to write to one another in? Or if she's not a diary type then a beautiful, expensive card, the sort one would send to an adult girlfriend. The words will last longer than anything you buy her (except maybe jewelry) and she'll be able to read them back in good times and bad and know how loved and appreciated she was. My mum sent me several cards like this and since her death in 2005 i have so appreciated being able to read back how it was with us when she was here and it's even helping to shape the way i treat DD.

Anyway, you two should be very proud too, she didn't grow into such a responsible helpful caring girl without a pretty special mama and dada modelling those personal attributes themselves.

Bx

[Lulu]

You can certainly tell her how impressed we all are!

and a big girls day would be lovely for the both of you I imagine