I was so sure that baby #3 would be our last, and up until Matilda was 1 year old I still thought that. But that urge came back. Slowly at first, but now that my 'baby' is about to turn 2 the desire to be pregnant again is oh so strong. DH is back and forth. One minute he wants to have a fourth, the next he doesn't. Doesn't help that TTC is just not working atm. It is taking much longer this time than with any of the others. Anyway, four kids will definitely be our limit. It has to be - even if the 'urge' came back after having #4, which I know it would, my head would have to overrule my heart. Besides, we will make it an impossibility by getting DH the snip.
I have just had my 5th and I'm now wondering if maybe we should try for 6 lol. DF is going for the snip in 8 weeks so maybe the decision will be taken out of our hands. Anyway if we go for more then never mind the tarago we will need a bus lol
Liz - As you know DH and I were angonising over the same question...Well as you know my urge got the better of me and number 3 is on the way. I already feel that this is it and once number 3 comes I'll be complete feeling.
It is interesting to face the possibility of never having another bub. I have witnessed a lot of my friends draw the line in the sand and say enough is enough, however the decision seemed to need a mourning process. I guess when you decide not to have anymore apart of your life has completed, your body has done the job is was born to do and now there is nothing. Even though this bub is the last with me I think I'll go through a bit of grieving.
I'm definately feeling complete after having my third. The urge has completely left me so i know my preggy days are over - so much so that i got them to clamp my tubes while they were delivering Isla. I know if i'd listened to my head and stopped at 2 then i would have always been wondering and yearning. I followed my heart and am very glad i did.
I can't say whether it's right for you or not but i would say follow your heart, you'll know.
all the best for the decision making ,although thi sthread was started a while back so you may have already decided!
hehehe just wait, I'm harrasing DH, whittling down the years i am having to wait for my babies... it's gone from 8 to 5... it will be 3 soon... hehehe then maybe next year if i nag enough! Then you will just have to have another with me
Lol we will keep trying, Together we will wear them down!!!!!
ps. Man I am soooo addicted to BB. The more i read the more I can't wait to have babies!!!!!!!!!
Argh Sophie - re-reading this thread has made me clucky again.. even tho I'm having a terrible time with my 2yr old these days! LOL.
Sometimes reality hits me, like when I was sick on the way home from camping, the thought went through my head.. omg, i couldn't do 3 months of morning sickness again. LOL.
I think another thing that puts me off a bit is a feeling of not being able to ask for help with 3 kids. It's almost like I think people will be thinking I brought it on myself having more than 2, so i have to deal with it. I'd feel bad asking mum (who's 75) to help with 3 kids.. she only really copes with 1 at a time now! LOL.
And yeah.. I'm sure my hanging out on BB all the time doesn't help.. makes me want to be preggers again. heh.
So Soph, are we still gonna go to the snow and let the kids trash that house? hehe.
I had 2 boys with a 2.5 year gap. Second was an absolute nightmare baby !
5 years later said to my husband i wanted another one - eeeeeekkkkk !!
I guess i was over the trauma of baby number 2.
Along came baby number 3.
Now that baby number 3 is 19 months old we have decided to try again ( last one! )
I must be crazy but we feel like baby 3 will be like an only child and it would be nice for him to have a playmate. Dont know about our chance of any holidays in the next 10 years or so !
I thought i was over the longing and yearning - NOT!!!!
It is a big decision - cant believe i might have 4 kids.
Good luck - I have 3 boys. Ages 9, 6.5, 19 months.
(secretly hoping for GIRL - more than happy with another boy ! )
I thought I was WELL over any urge, well over. I feel complete with three....until we were looking at DS's photo albums, his birth etc. Then he started kinder this year....oh dear I found myself longing for just one more.
haha yeah we will still go to the snow.... hahah but remember it is just couples?? lol no children.. they will have to hide in our suitcases lol. ahh.. like i said, our togetherness in nagging for babies will eventually work
I went through a super-clucky stage when Imran was about 1. Luckily for me DH refused to even contemplate another. Eventually the clucky passed and I'm so grateful to DH.
I love having my 2 big boys, being able to go away with only enough equipment for half an army and being semi-spontaneous. I'm really glad that I can enjoy my family without the stress of a baby.
Maybe one day I'll want another but for now I'm selfishly enjoying trips to the snow, free days(thanks to child care) and conversations about which ice-cream is the most important.
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