Sending you big hugs tara. Its such a hard situation and no-one really understands how hard it is for us. DH is in the RAAF and he missed our first wedding anniversary and most of my last trimester with ds (he only made it back from a trip by 4 days before ds decided to make his early appearance). I used to find it so hard as none of our civi friends understood what i went through when dh was away for weeks on end, no one got how i felt when dh went to work everyday and i didn't know if he would be sent on another trip, and no-one understands the stress we go through when we are alone on special days. I would always whinge to dh about it but as you say, they feel bad about it too but there is often nothing that they can do. Plus i think its harder for them coz they are away from their loved ones on special occasions. Make the day as special as you can for your little man and give him twice as many hugs and kisses to make up for daddy being away and when he gets back have a big celebration. Your special little man will be spoilt double!
Hi Tara I can totally understand and sending you a big hug. Same is happening for us, DH is on sub 1 then sub 4 this year, missing our 2nd anniversary, his bday and his first Fathers day... Luckily I am on Mat leave tghis year and maybe I can surprise him on a weekend with a visit but he will effectively be away for 3 months boo hoo lol...Not looking fwd to feeling like a single parent. Their 1st birthday is a massive milestone and I hope hope hope my dh is around for that but no guarantees hey?
Oh and I should add that both of us are in the army and are constantly being disappointed with leaving each other and juggling bosses who dont care about us personally but drive their own agendas constantly...Sucks but the pay is good and gives us the security we need in these uncertain times...lol
Hi there - just popping my head in here. DH is in the Navy and on Monday is off for 4 months. We've got a posting back to Canberra (should come through on paper on Tuesday). I'll move while he is away.
I am just feeling a little low and overwhelmed at the moment but not wanting to burden DH with it so trying to keep the happy face going!! I know I'll be fine by week 3 (the first two weeks apart are the worst). Anyway, just wanting some hugs and sympathy from others in similar situations!
Sorry to hear that your DH is going away My DH is in the Navy too and he went away for 6 months before our son was born. Luckily I was able to move up to Brisbane where all my family are.
Do you have any family or friends in Canberra? We just moved here about a month ago and I don't really know many people yet. I noticed that you DS is about a month older than mine - maybe we could introduce them
Have you found a place in Canberra yet? Anyway, hope you get through the next few weeks and your move goes well.
Hi Nat. Yep, my family is all over in the east (although scattered about). We moved over to the West from Canberra about 18 months ago and are now going back. We'll be moving over at the end of September so yes, it would be great to introduce our bubs. Oh and thanks for the hug!
Cass, those last few days before they leave are absolutely the pits, the first few weeks are hard until you get into the new rhythm. Don't be afraid to tell your DH how you are feeling, sometimes its best for the relationship (and your mental health) if you're able to maintain that honest communication throughout the separation.
Woop woop we are posted back to Enoggera!!!! That is the best news possible as my family are there and DH and I are working on the same base!!! V will go to daycare just off the base... Whew going back to work may not be as crappy as I thought...now to hget utd before my return (insert evil laugh here) Bummer we have to deal with the whole dha thing tho...
Hey ladies! Also just found this thread so thought I'd say hi! I'm Jo and I'm married to an arty boy. We just moved from Brisbane to Townsville in September on our first posting - loving it up here but I have no friends I know a few other wives but they don't seem to like me for some reason which annoys me to the beginning of no end! So I guess I'm really looking to make friends up here who are in the same boat...ship, jet, aslav.... Anyway! Just wanted to say hi!
My DH is in the Navy too and he went away for 6 months before our son was born. Luckily I was able to move up to Brisbane where all my family are.
I know a few other wives but they don't seem to like me for some reason which annoys me to the beginning of no end! So I guess I'm really looking to make friends up here who are in the same boat...ship, jet, aslav.... Anyway! Just wanted to say hi! 
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