Caitlin is almost two and a half and we have a 'naughty chair' which is just a little fold up chair in the corner at the start of the hallway. Its no good sending her to her room, too much to play with. She does not like the naughty chair and becomes good when it is mentioned.

I've smacked a few times in the past - once when she bolted out near cars and i FREAKED out.

What I like now is that she seems to know stuff, like if she asks for juice and i tell her there is none so she can have milk or water and she says which one of those she wants. Or that she cant have a pudding desert if she doesnt eat her vegetables at tea time. She will watch us eat pudding, cos we've had our veges, but she does not carry on that shes not having pudding ! I'm astounded at the understanding there.

I think you have to talk to your children more and explain things, as simply as possible. Whether its about discipline or something else, expand on the yes or no answer. Like the pyjama drama, when it happens here i start talking about what we're going to do the next day and who we're going to see and Caitlin starts thinking about that and gets excited and behaves. I'm no expert on anything really, but I recon I talk to Caitlin a lot and I believe she understands a lot. And talks a lot back. I can't imagine having more than one child to talk to, I'd have no voice left !

Good luck.
Barb.