Love it some days and hate it others. I am on leave and am headed back to work in October so am trying to squeeze as much as I can into this time (and remember that there is only one shot for each moment). For me it is important to get a break from the kids occasionally and also have some company during the week....sometimes harder to do than others.
I love being a SAHM ...but I dislike the mundanity of every day! I hate housework (I'm glad I'm not the only one!!) so my house is always not the tidiest around, I frequently rely on ABC Kids or the Wiggles to grab some sanity , and I feel my brain is way past mush - I get really nervous meeting DH at work things (he's a lawyer) and I rarely talk! I have my moments when I think that it would be much better if i go back to work and put DD in childcare - because surely that would be more beneficial than yet another stint of the wiggles and I think that I'm no good at being a SAHM because the house is never tidy, dinner isn't always cooked, and the washing is not done.
But, in another moment, I think I don't want to hand the raising of my DD to some one else (and this is in no means a personal attack on anyone who does childcare - like I always say, you do whatever works for you and noone else - everyone's situation is different). Its hard and I really don't feel I get the same respect I would if I'd gone back to work, but being with DD and watching her do something new is fantastic, and knowing I'm the special person in her life is priceless - she's started calling most of the men in our family Dad- and DH was saying earlier that he wonders when she will realise that he is a bit more special than say my dad - because he's not always around (he works really long hours and plays sport on top of that). But there's no chance that she'll get me confused with someone else because I'm her primary carer.
DD is begining to get more interactive (although it can still be reptitive - sorting shapes gets boring after 10 minutes for me!) and I'm looking forward to doing crafty stuff and painting and baking. And I'm really not a SAHM - if I can find an excuse to get out of the house, I do!
Last edited by SammyRo; July 5th, 2009 at 08:08 PM.
I get a great deal of satisfaction out of being home- BUT, I couldn't do it full time. I run my own business which will suck up as much of my time as I could give it, so I have plenty of external stimulation. Too much, actually, I wish I had more just "home time". But I know I need both to be happy.
All I'm saying is, I don't think women are divided into two categories- satisfied by home or satisfied by work. Like most things, there is a continuem. I think we need to work out where we fall on that and do what we can to have a sah/work balance that meets where we sit (I know very well indeed that this is not always possible!). There is definately some truth in 'happy mama, happy bubba'.
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, and I feel my brain is way past mush - I get really nervous meeting DH at work things (he's a lawyer) and I rarely talk! I have my moments when I think that it would be much better if i go back to work and put DD in childcare - because surely that would be more beneficial than yet another stint of the wiggles and I think that I'm no good at being a SAHM because the house is never tidy, dinner isn't always cooked, and the washing is not done.
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