ok,

so this is kind of a vent but I truly am interested in peoples opinions on this subject, I felt general chatter was the more appropriate place for this post as it is a question, but if any mod feels it needs to be moved thats okay too,


I receved a reply from my SIL via email as we had been chatting, we had been chatting about our plans etc and when we want to buy a home and so on, and she said

~quote~
A three or four year plan is the way to go especially if you are planning
on buying in ****** cause it is not cheap, also banks normally wont
loan to people unless they have been in a stable job for at least 2-3
years now. Also you might get a surprise at how stretched things will get
with a extra child in the house and then you have to work out how much
you can afford etc to live without.
~end quote~

this coming from someone who has never owned a home, or had any children, they are due to have their first in a few months,

I just wondered am I feeling offended toward her comments because it is true and perhaps this is how people actually feel in the big wide world,

I dont know,

my opinion, children do not cost that much, yes they do cost more than if you lived on your own but you adapt to your circumstances and budget etc and get bye, that you live to what you have and do what you can for your children but if you cant afford to have to most expensive car seat or cot or brand name clothing you go with out it, am I right ????

I feel confused,

perhaps I am feeling trhis way because I feel the words are my MIL's not SIL's and I hate people talking about us, I am more offended at the last comment about us being suprised as to how much a third child will stretch us financially,

the rest of her reply makes me laugh as she truly has no idea and I know this because we have owned a home before and I have also spoken to banks etc and know what we neeed to do in order to acheive our goal.

what do you think???

do you think she is right in what she is saying or do you think that you make do with what you have and do the best you can.

any opinions will be appreciated and no offence will be taken,

TIA