I didn't ever really do much at home, and for a long time I was a crud housekeeper. I didn't realise until I became a SAHM and it became mostly my responsibility. I'm getting better, but dh has been so patient - he pulls his weight when I am, but understandably finds it a bit hard to be motivated when I am like 'ohhhh yeah well I have plenty of clean clothes so I didn't think to wash yours or the towels' or 'can't we just get pizza again?'

I totally agree with Pony, it's really hard when suddenly it's 'ready set GO have skills' and I was like 'errr'. It must be hard to parent though - we had to do chores as kids - we negotiated to do it for money, but if there wasn't anything I wanted to buy, I wouldn't do my chores and then someone would pick up the slack because the job needed to be done. But I wouldn't do the job because it needed to be done because I didn't see the need.

I wonder if it helps to get kids to help from a really young age, because then it's something they've always done? I also wonder if they hear me grumble about things, that they will think that it's a negative thing. My eldest LOVES doing the washing, he's just turned 3 and I reckon he could pretty much do it on his own. He's warming to cooking, he does like to sample.