I would ask anyone not just a lawyer how they cope being a full time worker with kids. It's more out of curiosity how they do it, this comes from having a DH who worked ridiculous retail hours as we would have found it extremely difficult if we both worked full time.

My DH and I have just done a direct roll swap. I have gone back to work full time and he is a full time SAHD after many years as the main breadwinner. It has always been our plan to whoever can be the main breadwinner works and the other stays home.
I honestly think it's how we as the female project it to others. Yes that's a bit antiquated, to leave it the woman. That doesn't bother me one bit, my DH also proudly says he is now a SAHD.

I loudly and proudly say "my husband is a SAHD, if he wants to work, then it's his turn to go part time and work around kids and routines". My DH and I have discussed this by the way and agree.
I get looks like I have two heads, not to bother, I just soldier and keep going with all the positives.

So PN, just keep going and eventually everyone should catch on