I barely survive now and I have help from DH. I have to have 10 minutes every night to myself. AND I have Matilda in day care 5 hours on a Wed so I can get things done, shopping, doctor visits, naps etc... the "me" time. I do this for sanity sake. We started this with Matilda when she was 14 months old. Just having that break makes me a better mummy, and without it I couldn't survive. I hated the thought of Matilda being in someone else's care, but in the end I realised that a relaxed and happy mummy was more important to Matilda that 5 hours of play at day care....