My MIL rarely sees DD but i've seen her SMOKE with my 2 year old niece on her lap so i'm not at all sad about it!
My sister asked if she could send DD an easter egg and i was like "send away, i could do with some chocolate" making it clear DD wouldn't be given it.
I want DD to have healthy eating habits but not be obsessive so nothing is off-limits but things like chocolates etc. are for a rare treat (i.e. so far she has had chocolate twice, once, on her birthday, she had a suck on a chocolate cake decoration - it WAS her cake afterall, and once since i've given her a crumb of chocolate when i was eating it) and fruit is her regular "treat" food. SHe's next to me now chomping on strawberries :-)
I just know if i left her with MIL or SIL she'd get stuffed full of crisps and chocolate biscuits and crap and come back feeling rubbish and sicky :-(
Makes it tough though - i'm a single mum and so far only XDP has had her, she's never been babysat....
I don't think your overreacting either. I've been wondering the same thing about my recent experience at our daughters christening. I had to start buba on solids at 4mths and at 4 1/2mths my sister in law (lovely as she is and a fantastic parent) was feeding her garlic bread one night - i didn't have the balls to say anything so i let it be. We had our concerns about people feeding her at the christening but just agreed if we saw it we would say something. So as we were leaving i was told by my neice that they had been feeding her bbq shapes (serious choking hazard and no nutrition - might as well been chewing on cardboard), i couldn't believe it she was only 5 mths old and has only ever had natural food by this stage, thinking back now thats why she wasn't hungry for her booby juice for 2hrs after she was due for a feed.
Then later on i caught out of the corner of my eye both sister in laws feeding her caramel tart, i had to say something but i still don't think the message was understood. Then i was holding buba and my MIL put some caramel tart on her finger and was about to put it in buba's mouth and i had to pull her away. I also copped the "your a nasty mother" speil and thought no i know whats best for my daughter and the longer i can hold her off artificial crap the better.
Two things that really p****d me off is:
1. although i love them all dearly, i don't know where their fingers have been, i'm not anal about germs but other peoples fingers even mine should be washed and really only my fingers should be in our daughters mouth.
2. (if i hadn't have noticed them feeding her) was anyone going to tell me as they were leaving what they had feed our daughter - no, and if she had had an allergic reaction to something i wouldn't have known what she had eaten.
I just can't believe people think this is ok to do, i'm sorry i am just so angry, to me it feels like someone has breastfeed my child (i'm sure this is overreacting but it's just how it feels).
Keep standing up for yourselves girls as "Mother knows best" (takes a while to realise but when you do - look out)
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