You don't have to feel the need to downplay how severe you think it is...some people might think, "oh it's just flirting", and to me, if someone said that to me when I feel the way I do, I'd be very hurt. To me, it isn't okay to flirt. Why? Flirt with your partner, not some random. To me, that's a big deal, as is getting off to a random woman (why? I'm sexier than any Internet ho to my partner, as it should be )

Many I know that feeling well - the hot, angry, hurt feeling in your belly, the uncertainty at how 'bad' a situation is, and the feelings of doubt because the partner is downplaying our concerns. All amounts to feeling totally crap.