Matilda is almost 10 months and has been having what I think are tantrums.

Every time we try to stap her into anything, pram/highchair/car seat, she arches her back & screams and if she's tired then she was start flailing her whole body, go stiff and purple and she'll do this what feels like forever, but is probably 5 minutes at most. When we are getting in the car, I usually hold her body and let her go with my head outside the car breathing to stay calm.

At home in the high chair I have tried the same but I can't do it... I then hold her in my arms and try to reason with her..telling her that its time to eat. Most of the time that works and I can put her back in. For the last few days I have tried holding her first and telling her its food time and making it sound exciting but the same thing happens, I get frustrated and sometimes I just say "ok then, you missed that food time, we'll have another one at xxx time" And she misses out on eating solids. She doesn't seem to miss it at all and doesn't act hungry.

With the pram, she does the same but instead of getting stiff she does a crocodile death roll... and a lot of the time this is after getting in/out of the car so we've already gone through the same thing minutes before...

So... my responses to her are usually:
1. Getting in/out of the car seat isn't a discussion, she must go in, I have to just be patient for a few minutes and then she goes in nicely.
2. The high chair depends on how our day has been, is going.

I don't want to battle all the time with her, and I just don't know if I'm going okay or there are better ways of handling this...

Thanks for reading my epic post