How did you decide how many children you were going to have?

[Amity]

I always wanted five. I'm one of four.

I have two biological children and three stepchildren.

DP wants three more. Age is against me but I would love just one more

[Arimeh]

At first I didn't want any children then I met dh and agreed that maybe we would have 2, so got them out pretty quickly, then I had a failed vbac with dd1 so wanted to try again so got pregnant with dd2, then something felt like it was missing so got pregnant again and had dd3. Then I was done - I had 4 in 4 years so was constantly exhausted.

Then I accidentally fell pregnant when dd3 was nearly 2 and had ds2.

I am so freaking done its not funny lol

[dinky]

When DH and I married, I told him that I wanted 3 children, he agreed. Little did I know it would take a while to get DD#1, then DD#2 took a while as well, both of them were twin PGs, and I lost their twin both times, it was very traumatic. DH questioned me many times if I still wanted #3, and I was determined, nothing was going to stop me, it took over 8 years and many miscarriages before I finally got DD#3, and then DH said that was it, no more! I would love to have more, I could quite easily have 10 children, but its just not going to happen! I love my 3 girls, even with the huge 9 year age gap!

[Artechim]

I planned on having 2. All was going well until DS turned into a hell toddler (sensory/anxiety issues = many, many tantrums). If I wasn't already pregnant with the second I wouldn't have gone again, or at least would have had a much bigger gap. Then DD2 came along as a surprise so I had three, but she fit right in like she was always there.

After DD1 was born we tossed around the idea of a third and settled with probably not. After DD2 was born there was never even a question of going again lol.