I always wanted 4 and now have 3. I'm not sure if I'll have a 4th due to finances and the fact I dont get pregnant easily, DH isn't as helpful as I wish he was, family circumstances (my sister lost her little boy and I know it would hurt her terrible for me to have another baby) and the fact I'm of to uni again got another 18months and have a new job. I just don't know. I don't have the finished feeling although no great desire to get pregnant just now (although it can hurt when others do) unfortunately my fertility issues get worse with age so time probably isn't on my side. I'm undecided a BFP would bring us a lot of joy but I don't have that desperate desire like I have in the past. After my last birth I also am scared to do it again but not so much I wouldn't. I also am isolated from the hospital as I'm on s property and that scares me if something went wrong I'm an hr away
I always wanted more than one, I thought we would have 2 or 3. After my second was born I felt like that was enough for me (and luckily DH felt the same). I thought I would get clucky again but I can honestly say that I haven't (even though I've had two nieces arrive since DS and lots of friends have had babies too). Now I can't imagine going back to the baby stage! We are really enjoying having slightly bigger kids and I don't feel any desire to mix that up with a pregnancy and another newborn. I think you just 'know' when you are done and if you have any doubts then you probably aren't done!!
When I was pregnant with my first, we went on a holiday and were talking about 'how many kids do you think we'll have?' I was saying 2 as DH was saying 3. How come we never had this conversation earlier??? I couldn't fathom having 3 kids. I was working full time still and felt that 3 kids would just take forever. Anyway, when I was pregnant with DS2 (they're 18 months apart) I just knew that it wasn't my last pregnancy. I was even talking about having a third while I was still pregnant with number 2. Now that we've got 3, I feel like our little family is complete. I'm giving away some baby stuff to my SIL who is having her first. Part of me questioned whether we could keep going and both DH and I said no, that's enough for us. I just feel like i'm going to be stuck in playgroup for the next 10 years if we kept having more kids. All of my mum's group have finished and most have returned to work, so I'm feeling a little left behind, still stuck in the night wakening and settling and breastfeeding etc. I wouldn't change it for the world though and the boys just love their baby sister. It's so lovely watching them all interact and get excited when she smiles or giggles at them. I'm guess I'm lucky that my DH is really supportive and an awesome, hands on dad. I would have been really sad if he wanted to stop at 2.
I went from never wanting any, do changing my mind when I was 31. When we decided to ttc, we agreed to two. After DD1 I really felt like another (despite the birth and how hard she was), so did DH, in fact he wanted heaps. Took a bit to concieve DD2, in fact we almost stopped as I was hitting my self imposed age limit.
When pregnant with DD2 I was feeling fairly complete. There were only a couple of times we toyed with the idea of a 3rd, same when DD2 was about 8 months. That died pretty quickly. I just do not feel clucky, I have no desire to hold other babies, I am just so glad to be out of the baby toddler stage. DH has had the snip. We do not even want to contemplate having another!
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