I'm not really close to my mum, but she minds the cubs for 3 hours a couple of times a week (while I'm at counselling trying to figure out how not to be like her, ironically)
ha me too but im not up to the counselling part just yet!! i just try to ignore her and see her as little as possible!!! but on the bright side your mum does want to spend time with dd which is more than i can say for my mother

good luck hun i hope it goes well for all of you!!