Wow..my dd is 13 in two months and there is no way wed be having mixed gender sleepovers with kids that arent family friends etc. Thats such a scary thought. We have always had parties with both boys and girls sleep over and we have had sleepovers with boys but when they become boyfriends it really just changes the whole dynmamic. I must admit I would be like you Shell. If Jess was invited to sleepovers with boys going then Jess wouldnt be going. Even having one at my house would be risky as you cant watch them all through the night and kids sneak out etc lol..(shudder....the things I did at that age!!!) If something happened at our house at our party..nup..just too risky!

Jo