Thanks for your replies. Hubby is against having any boys at the party at all but DD's bio mum doesn't have a problem with the boys sleeping over and I'm kinda half and half, lol. I'm going to have to give it some more thought. I'm thinking about letting her invite them all over for a BBQ and just see how it goes and how they all interact with each other, but she can have a couple of girlfriends stay the night if she wants. DD has a 14 yr old half sister (they have the same bio mum) who has a 17 yr old boyfriend who sleeps over most nights, recently he lost his licence for speeding and bio mum thinks it's funny. I don't want this for DD but am feeling powerless to guide her towards something better when bio mum doesn't see any problems with the current situation. At the moment I'm getting the same old line "everyone else's mum lets them" and it seems amongst her group of friends that this is true. I feel so old now, lol and I know now how my parents felt when I did this to them, lol.