poodleowner - how very frustrating for you . It is a very common problem though. I encourage you to read an article on the main website written by our psychologist, Danny Chable. It's in the post natal section and is called, "Where am I on the heirarchy?" which talks about grandparents that like to make their own decisions for you. Basically you have to stand your ground and tell them (nicely) that you are the parents of this baby and you need to make your own choices and decisions for your baby. I hope you have the strength to say something to her - I know it was very hard for me.

Good luck!