Oooooooooooooh babe .

OMG I know the feeling, especially when the house is a mess. It makes every thing 100 times worse.
Leave silly old DH, he can sort himself out - he's big enough to take care of himself and he is certainly not doing anything to help you at all.

What kind of help did the MCHN offer to you? I understand that you don't want strangers helping, but have a think about it for a sec. Most people do that sort of job because they care and want to help people (certainly NOT for the $$$!), so they aren't going to be judging you. It may be worth considering even if its a chance to get on top of the housework, maybe once or twice?

Once I was so desperate to clean up my filthy kitchen so I popped both kids into the kitchen sinks (big novelty value that one, they stay there for ages) to keep them out from my feet. One of Dp's mates walked in much to my horror, took one look at us all and gave me a hug. He said he remembered those days with his little ones, it's the same for everyone we just have to get through it. It was kinda nice coming from somewhere I didn't expect it and certainly made me feel better. Its not that we are not coping, its that there is SO MUCH to do.

Sometimes I go the opposite way when DD gets ridiculous (I never want to see yogurt again btw). So if she does the yogurt body painting I just smile and say "aren't you a funny bugger!", it totally takes the wind out of her naughty sails and I feel better about not being negative all day long.

I've got some more weapons but I have to go now as my two are throwing sand at each other right now..........

But more of these for you XOXOXOXOXOXXOXOXOXOX