Honestly, my husband and I always agreed we would start TTC #2 as soon as #1 was born, and when it came to the crunch I was so overwhelmed with motherhood and trying to put on a façade of coping that I couldn't admit I wasn't ready, so we started TTC when DS1 was 6 weeks. If I had been stronger I would have told him I had changed my mind, but in retrospect it worked really well for us. With the twins I was ready and as keen as I had been when TTC #1.

There is no right time to have another child. There is not even a need to have another if you are happy with your family as it is. As for how you will cope with a toddler and a newborn, it is easier than you might think but it is tiring and it does mean a bigger chunk of your worklife will be put off. Not an easy decision, I hope you find the answer you are looking for xx