I think the main word in this discussion is choice. Sadly some of us have it taken away like you Cass, but we all need to be happy with our choices iykwim.

Sherie like you I am permenently clucky and have 4 kids. I love them all more than anything. I ven thought about a 5th but have finally decided it is my turn now, and I want to enjoy the kids and my life as it is.

Girls if you choose 1 child only then your child will be loved and cherished in the only way they will ever know and visa versa, if you choose to have another they will not know the difference. It is easy to look back on your own experience to help you. If you were an only child then you have that experence and if you had siblings you have that experience. One child usualy demands more of your attention, and if you have that to give then I'm sure you will have a special bond with your child. If you feel you wouldn't want to go back to the baby stuff, then I think you know what you want. I know that once Jessica is out f nappies I will feel the same.

I will step off the soap box now LOL SORRY.

I hope we all are happy with the choices we make and most importantly love the kids we have.
cheeers michelle