I guess the hardest thing to get your head around is, each mother has a different style of parenting. Whilst i agree with everything u have said....thats her way of bringing up her son. I sure as hell wouldnt be like that with DD. I have had comments on how i raise my child....but this is my style. Every amily is different, have different beliefs, diff cultures. Also depends on how they were raised as a kid as well.

Id find it extremely hard not to speak up. and say something....but theres a line you cant cross i feel. Thats her way...and u have to respect that?

What would i do.....im not sure.. i guess id stop seeing her.....i feel for the child...and hate her mothering ways.

Sorry im not much help!!

Goodluck with ur pregnancy..not long to go now!!