oh this is brilliant i am so glad that i am not the only one who thinks like this!!!

yes i get comments from MIL who lives very locally, i am still waiting to babysit, and also comments from her friends saying 'oh MIL is desperate to babysit and can't wait'.... when her first grandchildren were born her son and daugther in law were VERY VERY young, so i think she helped out ALOT, so maybe thats what she was expecting with me, however thats not the case. I'm not very young, I'm not struggling to cope, in fact I'd just like to be left alone for a few weeks while I try to get bubs more settled and break a few bad habits I have formed with her (nursing her while she sleeps etc).

i really would be fine with leaving bubs with my mum (who lives just over an hour away) when the time comes, however do u think that is going to offend MIL? Is it bad that right now I only want to leave her with my mum (which i haven't even done yet).

As i said previously, i know once she is older I will be happy to leave her with the in laws, but not just yet.

the thing is, if MIL came over to babysit, most likely hollie would be asleep, so it really wouldn't be that exciting for her anyway, sitting in the loungeroom watching tele. she is too young for other people to really enjoy, as she has only a short wake time then is settled to sleep, IYKWIM? i would be paranoid that MIL would 'accidently' wake her up to make use of the time without me.

am i a *****? i really feel like i am.