I agree that a good honest talk could def help. It's not about blame or finding holes in your relationship or not being 'perfect' but marriage can be hard and this is another hurdle in it...after 10 years it's fair that things may need to be addressed as we can't all be bonking all the time especially with bubs around!!! Anyways I know it's not much help but their is nothing wrong with a libido that goes up and down and to ot be in sink all the time - been there as well as I reckon a lot of others have To. In regards to the pact you made ages ago and now you feel your doing all the work - may i suggest that uou consider removing it if your confortable with this...sometimes it helps if both you and him can get a little 'me' time and then the other person doesn't feel bad(if that makes sense, if ot ignore this!!!) - hope that doesn't offend! for me personally I find that it helps kick start my libido when in a bit of a slump!!!! Good luck