Should a 5 year old know better??? (May distress)

[Mum0809]

Amy - She got it out of a moving box, that was out of reach but not out of her reach. She's a climber and can get anywhere.

Starbright & Raven - There is alot of jeaousy and she hurts her sister ALOT. It's a worry.

Mel - I think theres a big difference between almost 2 and almost 5.

Tenny - No she didn't. Bub couldn't breathe, she was distressed and upset when she could breathe again.

[Aimz]

It does worry me that she kept the plastic there after her sister showed clear signs of distress and this would be something that would worry me as a parent. I don't think it's a problem to have things like bubble wrap for kids to play with (I used to play with it too!) but only if your kids know the dangers of plastic or you are present in the room. Obviously in this case they were unaware that she even had it.

I wouldn't leave her alone with the baby if jealousy is causing her to harm sister. I also wouldn't leave her alone with your kids either. But as I said, I don't think it's cause enough for you not to move. She will grow out of the jealousy thing - my brother used to hurt me all the time when I was a baby and by the time I was three and could play we were best friends. I think it comes down to heavy supervision and lots of lessons about playing nice and being kind.

[Smoke Jaguar]

Before I got to your last post, HP, I was thinking "what's going on for a 5 year old to do this?", rather than the "how was she 'punished'","what kind of 'discipline' does she get" sorts of questions. Punishment and discipline do more to make the parents feel better than actually address the driving issues here. This situation needs to be responded to sensitively and with utmost loving reassurance - reacting angrily will push the underlying issues further underground and foster more of the resentment that seems to be there.
To me, it sounds like it stems from something that's been going on for her for a while that hasn't been dealt with at its root - it sounds like she's been trying to say something for a while and been misunderstood, overlooked or her grievances not treated with the respect and empathy she requires. It could be none of this, but these are my first impressions.
I feel that as long as you can provide her with some loving attention and let her know that you care about how she's feeling, and when she's over you involve her in what you're doing or involve yourself in what she's doing, you won't have anything to worry about. And it might even provide an outlet for attention that she needs (I don't like the attitude adults have that children needing attention should get the opposite...we hate that for ourselves as adults!).
As I said, just my thoughts with the information you've given

[Mum0809]

To me, it sounds like it stems from something that's been going on for her for a while that hasn't been dealt with at its root - it sounds like she's been trying to say something for a while and been misunderstood, overlooked or her grievances not treated with the respect and empathy she requires. It could be none of this, but these are my first impressions.
g attention

I think this is alot of the problem. Before bub came along she was mummy's baby. Now she isn't getting the attention she was used to. She get lots of toys, treats ect but not has much of mummy's time .