i could not do it.

things that affect my decision - the effect of pregnancy on my body, my mind (incl hormones), my kids, my career. I don't think my partner fully comprehends the effect of pregnancy on me, i couldn't expect my sibling to, but in tough times, i would want them to understand.

i think babies have a right to breastmilk, and for me it would be difficult to birth a baby knowing they may not have access to it- unless i was also a bm donor, and this would extend the relationship further than just surrogacy, which would make the situation more difficult.

best wishes as you work through it.