Is there a way we can resolve this without world war 3?*long*

[LaDeeDa]

Thanks Everyone for the suggestions - I need them as I still have the red mist over the eyes

SamiH - They live 4 hours away so they never are here when we need a break - but regardless they are important in DS's life. I grew up without extended family and I don't want him to do the same.

Fionas - great suggestions. we need a switzerland me thinks ...LOL I just feel so frustrated because we have tried to talk to them calmly and civilly so many times about various issues with DS that now I am just over it.....
Not very mature I know but where I am.

The reason I also say that WW3 is going to start is after this weekend DH and I have finalised our decision about DS's godmother having him if godforbid anything should happen to he and I and we will be updating our will accordingly......
MIL is going to go postal ..... but if she can't respect our wishes for 5 hours how would she go raising our child according to our wishes?

*sigh* seriously sucky situation!

[Madham]

Tough situation when it involves family. Your his mother and she needs to respect that, if not well then she is the one that will miss out. I think your dh needs to speak to her and let her know once again that you were not happy with the situation and honestly cant trust her to respect your parenting wishes so she will not be looking after him again.
I hope things workout for you and that it is not going to be a WW3.

[SamiH]

The reason I also say that WW3 is going to start is after this weekend DH and I have finalised our decision about DS's godmother having him if godforbid anything should happen to he and I and we will be updating our will accordingly......
MIL is going to go postal ..... but if she can't respect our wishes for 5 hours how would she go raising our child according to our wishes?

*sigh* seriously sucky situation!

Um, why would you make this a topic of conversation with them anyway? My father or my MIL have never asked who gets our kids if something happens to us - unless you have actually asked them in the past, curious why you would mention it to them at all?

[LaDeeDa]

Um, why would you make this a topic of conversation with them anyway? My father or my MIL have never asked who gets our kids if something happens to us - unless you have actually asked them in the past, curious why you would mention it to them at all?

They brought it up with us....

[SamiH]

have they asked and want an answer specifically? Unbelievable. And rude. And presumptious.

But - to move on, just say something along the lines that they should enjoy their golden years ...

[Winter]

ARRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!! I am seething for you LaDeeDa!

Bring on WW3 - sometimes I think MILs need to be reminded of where they sit in the pecking order!

[kelebek]

I think that you DH definitely needs to say something but ultimately you might have to let it slide but no that she can't be trusted in future

In regards to who gets blue... I always thought you chose someone who is closer to our age or younger (and obviously someone you trust), it just doesn't make sense to me to choose either my parents or his