Talking about your next one and actually wanting to take the step to have the next one are two completely different things. DH and I often talked about 'the next one' because when making long term plans you have to talk and think like that if you know you are definitely going to have more than one child. I agree with Marcellus in that you might need to take some time to look at your life and work out what it is, because it may not be another child at all.