What was your family life like ( in particular those with seperated parents)

[allycat06]

DH's parents have been divorced for about 10 years now, his mum remarried last year. Their marriage ended due to a number of things FIL gambling, drinking, being a general layabout and MIL having an emotional affair with a man on the internet. They were separated but lived under the same roof for about a 6 months until FIL found somewhere else to live. I think the best thing they have done was remain amicable for the sake of their children. FIL moved close by so it wasn't a big trip between houses and when MIL would drop DH's youngest brother off on the weekends she would always come in for a chat and coffee and sometimes would even stay for bbqs on public holidays and what not.

I've noticed now MIL has remarried things have changed dramatically especially as her new husband flat out refuses to meet FIL, which really annoys FIL as DH's brother lives with them. It seems now she is rather reluctant to be anywhere FIL will be whereas before birthdays and family gatherings where never an issue. DH seems to get down about it a lot which makes me sad, he dealt with all the divorce stuff a long time ago and now it's coming up again. Divorce is an unpleasant thing for anyone to have to go through but I think it is so important for your children to see you getting along and being civil, especially when they are too young to understand. Also to remind them that it's not their fault...even at 25 I think DH still blames himself for his mum having that affair as he's the one who introduced her to the internet. A child should never think it was something they did to end their parents marriage.