Where Babies Come From...

[Mrs Jak]

I'm always one for being honest and upfront and I have been wondering how much information I can/need to tell DD about where babies come from. (and out from)

I know some people don't even like talking to their older children about the topic, so I'm aware that what I tell my DD could be passed on to others.

She's probably a bit young to ask some questions yet, but I'd like to be prepared!

I just remember in grade 4 or 5 when someone told me about periods and I was so horrified!! Mum always called pads and tampons 'ladies things'.

My main question is do I tell her babies come out of the mummy's vagina (don't laugh but we call it a 'schninny' here ) and/or the tummy?

What's your view/experience?

[Rouge]

You need to be age appropriate. So you don't want to create fear. Paris learnt from early on that babies come out of vagina's but she was special and came out of my tummy, but she knew her brother was going to come out vaginally (if I got my way which I did YAY). We use correct terminology as I think its very important, no front bottoms or alternate descriptions. Paris was 3-4 when we started explaining all this as I became pregnant with Seth. She also knows that to make a baby you need an egg and a seed which is in mummy's tummy she came to the conclusion herself that god put it there, which I haven't disputed yet as I'm not quite sure if she's mature enough to understand the reality of how it really got there. And too much information can be dangerous.

[Mrs Jak]

Thanks Cailin.

[Trish]

Noah was told that most babies come out of the mummy's fanny, but some babies come out of thier mummy's belly too. As he was a c section baby I also felt the need to tell him this. He has watched Tehya's birth dvd so many times now that he know's it back to front and if I get my way both him and Tehya will be present for this babies birth too.

Noah thinks that it is totally normal to be born at home and in a pool. Something that I had to re explain to him there. Poor kid thought that cows did it the same way LOL

I do agree though, age appropriatness is the best. I offer enough to satisfy the curiousity and that's it. If more questions arise then I answer them as truthfully as possible too.

[soul]

For me I dont explain "Exactly" where the baby comes out of till they start school, I like them to have the first five years of simply being a imaginitive child, with no worries or thoughts of things like that. That way I know they wont run of telling old granny mae at the bus stop babies come out of womens fannys lmao. At a school age you can exp-lain to them they dont go around telling people these sorts of things, you have to be careful who you say those things to because some people dont like talking about it, saves my child being uncomfortable if someone starts yelling out "Ewwww" lol usually another child that doenst know about it. I dont feel a child needs to grow up before they should have too, I want my children to live in a beautiful imaginative world before they lose that part of themselves. There is plenty of time for having to live in a world where we lose all our beautiful innosense and purity.

[Lucy]

Olivia is 3.5 and asks about this type of thing all the time: she was very aware of my pregnancy with Lexie (and labour!) & since Lexie, 4 of my gf have been pg and then had newborns, so it is, I think, front of mind for Olivia.

I have been totally open in discussing how babies grown in a Mummy's tummy, and how when the baby is ready to come out that the baby comes out the the vagina or the tummy. (One of my gf had a caesar, and bless her, had no issues with showing Olivia her scar, so Olivia totally gets that one. And she is hilarious about saying "to have a baby you have to push really bigly, like you are squeezing out the biggest poo"

That said, I haven't got to seeds and methods of fertilisation. Too confusing I think, at much before 6?
Dunno, that is when I was the big chat from my Mum. I understood it all at 6. (Was grossed out, but I got the gist!)

[soul]

Now this is interesting because my girls knew but my boys not before five! So do you also tell you boys all about the womens body?

[aussienic]

So far we have only had "the" conversation with our 8 yr old but our 4 yr old asks some questions. We call thing by their right name here.. Vagina and penis. although the boys say willy, nuts goolies ect

We Told Ethan (8) a certain amount of things using a book from the library. things i didn't tell him were how the sperm gets inside the woman to make the baby. in other words the actual act of sex. he has an idea but we said we didn't think he needed to know that bit of information just yet...

and that satisfied him nicely. Just be upfront and honest and use normal adult talk rather then dumbing it down kwim???