You've finished having kids, but does your family feel 'complete'?

[Jennifer13]

I'm having these thoughts now. It took DP so long to decide to go for #2 (even though we'd always intended to have two) that I don't think my chances of a third are any good. Plus, I always thought for me three would be one too many (grew up as one as three). The logical side of my head and heart tells me that raising two children will be enough for me, but I know my hormones and emotions would do more. For me too, pg and conception is such an enjoyable and relatively easy experience that there's no moment of pause at that part of it.

But we are happy with the gap we have between these two and I'd want that again. So maybe by the time I'm in my late 30s I will have completely lost the urge! I must admit, as DD1 gets older, I find myself more and more enjoying this different stage - the schooling, the development of a slightly older child and the new social interactions. I often think that if DP hadn't agreed this year, I would have been close to changing my mind, feeling like I'm getting past wanting to do the baby thing again.

I have a few gfs who say they never lost the urge to have more children even when they had made the decision not to have any more, but once they got into their 40s it literally just went away one day. The whole idea of doing it again was unappealing. I think I will probably be like that. DP and I have agreed no vasectomy until we're both in our 40s. Just in case we win lotto!