thank you everyone for your comments. although i read them all or DH did to me,first opportunity to reply. not all of you read my information correctly, i did specify that paed. said 10min on each breast prior to top up, but sas, thank you yours was the most helpful as you had same situation after 3 weeks. this is not to say i appreciate all comments, but like every thread, some more valid to my questions (dictated by DH as my head is in pieces with sleep deprivation etc)

decision was made...some points were not mentioned in the first post...ie I had spoken to ABA already,and they were happy with no. of feeds, amount expressed EBM, etc. but now that friends and family showed concern about lack of birthweight after 6 weeks and paed.s advice didn't work, we had to make a decision.

just for info purposes, after he fed from each breast and had only 20ml of a different formula...he was content waiting for his bath ... then he puked everywhere, DH on nightshift again, and bub pood constantly for about 2 minutes, runny mr. whippy just kept coming and then peed himself. all this has started with the intro of formula. so in tears phoned DH said decision made, he's going to be purely bf, i will top up with EBM,i will call aba again and get advice, i'll take fenugreek to increase milk supply as it's natural and lc advised that at chemist as an option..maxilon does not agree with my tummy and is another 'chemical' i don't want to take.

so this weekend it's a feed every 3 hours as per the normal day schedule and same at night, with any top ups in arvo/night when milk supply is less and 30 ml of EBM will be given, and better burping, and hope that the self settling he's learned from the 'save our sleep' book routine continues. it's taking longer, but as long as it works whether it's 2min or 20 min he's not vomiting, thus not losing weight, topping up with my milk not formula he has to be gaining weight and strength. he has plenty of wet nappies...used to count don't now. not always really heavy but blue line, needs to be changed for comfort.

if he does not gain weight (we will weigh him same chemist same scales next week a few times) then we need to revisit agian. ABA said you can fortify EBM, and she gave me her no. to let her know how he does, she's in mel and works at hospital so said she'd look into it. tried to hire/buy baby scales but noone has them although everyone thinks everyone else has them. always the weekend!!

sorry it's badly punctuated and spelled but rushing in case he wakes. typing with a wheat pack strapped under arms onto boobs as this helps let down apparently.
thank you again, our i've not really posted on many other forums other than LTTC...Hi weemans mum!