Hi, I'm new here and I have a few questions. First off my wife and I are planing on trying to have a baby within the next year and we already have a donor picked out. He's my wife's cousin (I'll be having the baby so nothing creepy lol) and he's a really awesome gay guy and a great friend. We've talked about how involved he would want to be with the child and all three of us have mostly agreed that it's ok for him to really play the dad part.

My concern is how this would affect the child and my wife. I want him to be there as much as he wants but I'm worried that it might feel more like him and I are the parents and my wife is more like an aunt. I was wondering if anyone else has been in this situation and how you handled it. Any advice you could give would be awesome.

Thanks!!