Hi Allyson,

We chose an unknown donor, like Bee, for that reason. I was the booby mum, and Shel was very concerned about being the third wheel WRT parenting, if there was already the mum-dad. I think only because we faced huge hurdles in the family, and if there was the possiblilty for them to stick their heads on the sand and pretend we were happy 'normal' families they would have, and happily pushed Shel to the outer. So unknown worked for us. We are the parents and thats how we wanted to parent.

I think it can absolutely work though, but everyone has to be on the same page. Hopefully some 3+ parent families can come in and give some advice