I just want to say thank you for all the advice and experiences - and sorry for vanishing so long! It's been a bit of a stressful time - we had two donors vanish on us, one who hadn't discussed it with his wife first and one who just vanished without a word during email contact. And so many enquiries to local donors on a match site who just never even took the time and courtesy to repsond and say "no thanks". I was on the point of heartbroken despair.
We think we've finally found a donor who will stick around, just missed meeting up with him next cycle - he lives in London and it's a bit of a trek, but we'll do anything! Transport and hotels, even in London, is *still* cheaper than the insane cost of Danish sperm. Very scared and nervous, and so afraid this donor will evaporate, too! We keep wondering what on earth we were saying wrong.
Last edited by Lindley; February 11th, 2010 at 02:51 AM.
Don't worry about what you were saying wrong...I'm sure you didn't say anything wrong!
You have to remember that if the person bails before you go through with insemenation - then they've done you a favour by bailing early. Although it's hard and painful, you want to make sure you have a good match between both parties.
It is better to be open and honest and risk saying something that might turn a donor off - than trying to say the right things and ending up with someone whose not on the same page as you.
Goodluck - I'm at the same stage, looking for the right donor. It's a tough one, but maybe the most important step.
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