Hi Clark,
My first advice would be to see another GP, gay friendly alone isn't good enough when you need some support on your journey to parenthood.
Re the whole Victorian situation, we tried the home insemination route for just over 12 months, around 9 times. All without success.
Our GP referred us straight to the IVF clinic where our Dr listened to our story and said 'clinically infertile...welcome to the program'. We started IVF a few months back, had a surprising and thrilling BFP first time and then a sad miscarriage. We're very hopeful and excited about our FET next week.
Best of luck to you.
Sylv.