Welcome Leanne & Selena - BB is a very welcoming and supportive place to share your experiences with TTC & pregnancy. Hope you get all the support you need during this exciting phase of your life!
Leash! - WOW! That belly of yours has suddenly got so big! Ha ha Looks great, sounds like everything is going well with your pg. I meant to reply to your name thread but didn't get chance - Alexis is gorgeous name.
Thankyou so much for that, it has given me a different perspective on things. You sound like you have been through the works with your family. Mine was very similar when me n sel first got together and then it was mainly mum. We have been together since oct 2006 so now she is kind of getting the used to the idea that her little girl isn't going to have the life she dreamed of and is much more friendly to sel. Then I was having a chat with her 'hypothetically speaking' asking what she would think if we ever had a baby and the response was somewhat negative quoting things like 'i'd still like the baby but it's just not natural' and wanted to change the subject quicker than you could blink. This just confirmed my thoughts about her hidden thoughts that still remain about me n sel. I have learnt that you cannot control other peoples feelings on what lifestyle you wish to lead and you also cannot....as you said leasha...live a fantasy thinking everything is fine either. The most important thing is that we are happy in the life we are living and thats all that matters. I used to try and please everybody else but now know that isn't possible. I am very close to my older sister who is ever so supportive of us and us having a baby, she is the only one of us who has a couple of little ones and very excited about becoming a first time aunt lol.
I just want to thank all of you for your friendly gestures and support so far, you sound like beautiful loving people and look forward to getting to know you better
Good luck to you and your partner when you try to conceive. It certainly is a learning curve.
My partner and I have an almost 3 year old daughter and we have just started trying to conceive again.
My partners family isn't great with us and have never made a secret about not being happy with our relationship but they love Sarah and their issues with us haven't crossed over to her. (so far anyway)
I sometimes find it very hard not having a lot of support from her family, but luckily I have a fantastic family who love us for who we are as people, not what we are.
Welcome Leanne and Selena, It great to have another lesbian couple on BB. I have two boy (9 and 7 years) to whom I am the non-biological mum. their other mum and I separated three and a half years ago and they live half time with each of us. We has them both in a public hospital, An care in the birth centre but both ended up being emergency LSCS. We have never, at that time or since had problems with homophobia in the healthcare setting. We have always been out, proud and unashamed which I think helps. The other factor for us is that I am a doctor and as much as I hate to say it I think you do get treated differently if you are in the healthcare professions. When my eldest DS was born (almost ten years ago) there were a lot fewer lesbians conceiving children together then there are now and we were a bit of a novelty on the postnatal ward! One of the midwives said to me "you are much more attentive than most of husbands"!
I have been with my DP since July 2006 and we have been TTC since june 2007, inseminating me at home using a known donor. This is how my 2 DSs were conceived so if you have any questions re "doing it yourself" am happy to talk further.
Re the lesbian preg book recommended by Alisia, I got my copy from borders- just found it on the shelves! I ahve a few other similar books which I will check the titles of and let you know.
Anyway, welcome again and enjoy your journey!
Thanks girls, thats really great to see so many friendly people. Dr Girl thats really reassuring to know that you never came across any negative behaviour while your sons were born. I was thinking a bit more about it and I know that everyone would treat me lovely...well most of them lol...I have been a RN for years and now doing my endorsement to be a midwife...i think most people like me and those who are a little closed minded cant help but like me cos they knew me before they knew i was gay lol. I agree that if your a staff member they do treat you differently. Just have to see when the time comes I suppose.
I actually have just started in birthsuite tonight after 3 mths working in the maternity ward. I have seen plenty of straight forward deliveries but this was a vacuum and forceps delivery. Its amazing how the birth can be going along so lovely with the woman pushing really well then the baby becomes distressed and then the labour room turns into a bloody theatre with 10 thousand people in there and then once the baby was born she was whisked off to theatre for vaginal repair. I know i've gone off the subject here but I just needed to vent, I really felt for this woman. There was a lot more to it but its just not fair how your ideal birth doesn't always work out and the whole thing becomes so medicalised.
Anyway....
I'm trying to track down this book. I saw a review on the maybe baby website about it and it sounds really good. How is your ttc going drgirl? I hope all is going well and you get BFP very soon!
Thanks Leanne. Our TTC journey is a bit rocky.We had an early niscarriage in nov 2007 and no BFP since then. I am on my third cycle of clomid and this month am adding pregnyl in the luteal phase. We saw FS for first time this week and between my short LP, low progesterone and some issues with our donor's sperm he has recommended IVF/ICSI so we a re now looking into that pathway!
Re. the books I will look up the titles, just haven't had a chance yet.
I am looking forward to receiving the book i ordered 'ultimate guide to pregnancy for lesbians'. i ordered it from bookaholics and apparently is in the post so thats good. I might get more of an idea on things. Thanks for referring me Alisia and drgirl!
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