Hi, single lesbian who can't stop thinking about babies!!

[kitty_kat_48]

Hey Shades,
I just wanted to add my little story and input and opinion in here!
I absolutely know where you are coming from, I'm a 20 year old single lesbian and I'm now officially on the waiting list for donor sperm at a fertility clinic here in Perth. I've been wanting a baby since I was about 14 and have been in a few different relationships, and also tried to get pregnant before, but I have finally decided to do it through a clinic and I'm really happy! So don't stress too much about being young and wanting to do this, and as heaps of other people have said, probably no one will ever really have enough money to do everything they want to do, including having a child, so as long as you think you are going to be able to manage then I think it's probably ok! Just make sure you do as much reading and thinking about everything as you can, because even now that I've been thinking/reading about getting pregnant/having a baby for the last 6 years I know that there is still so much more for me to learn about it and so much more for me to think about it before it actually happens. So in a way I am glad that I have almost a year of a waiting period before I can get pregnant!
I have had some "mental issues" as well, perhaps not anything like yours, but I am getting help with that at the moment because I want to make sure I'm totally ok before I get pregnant. My mum also died last year so I've still been dealing with that and I realise how hard it's going to be once I've had the baby to not have her around to help me, but that's something I've got to deal with! Just make sure you have a good support network once you get pregnant and everything...... it will help a lot!
Anyway.........just wanted to share my little opinion!

[Shades]

Thanks heaps Kitty_Kat... I wish you all the best with your ttc and everything! You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders...

[Indadhanu]

Hi Shades, heard that you are on the TWW. Congrats Have you worked out a parenting agreement with the donor? Please don't underestimate how important that really is, you need to make sure you're all on the same page for bubs sake. I hope you've worked or are working through the guilt you mentioned in your first post. Good luck with TTC

[Shades]

Yeah we have pages and pages of a contract detailing how the donor has NO parental rights or responsibility etc - he won't be named on the certificate etc. My mum was pretty impressed with the thoroughness of it actually. She's really come through for me support-wise - much more than I'd hoped!The guilt is being allayed somewhat by my working through the stuff that made me how I am, and trying to find ways of minimising the risk to my baby in the future, so yeah - it's all coming up roses...
I really hope this one sticks though because my donor is in Melbourne so it's not really doable to try every month - just when I'm down on holiday... so it could take a while!

[Uncle Amy]

hey Shades,
I'm a single mum, been single the whole way - i'd love to chat to you but having a bub on my own means I literally have my hands full most of the day, and night! Feel free to send messages direct if you have any questions, i was on meds for depression throughout the pregnancy and still on them.
gotta go

[Shades]

Hey - thanks for the reply - I friended you and I'll definitely send you a message soon - just recovering at the moment from the disappointment of AF arriving this morning I'll get back to you I promise.

[cath&denise]

Oh Shades, I feel for you.
Good luck next go...

[Steffi]

Hi Shades, just wanted to say goodluck with ttc. I am also ttc my first baby and also suffer with "mental issues". People can be very judgemental, i plan to be a sahm but have a husband that works full time. Everybody is different and has no right to judge you. Try to move past the guilt, i know how hard that is first hand. Like you i work when i'm doing well but have to take breaks when im not so well. I don't think you can truly understand what it's like unless you've been there. It's admirable that you have had the courage to come out and take on the world, don't let anyone stand in your way hun.

[Shades]

Thanks Steffi - it's great to have that support from people!! Best of luck with your ttc-ing!