Congratulations on your BFP and thoughts and hugs to you both. I am very sorry that your joy has been interfered with. When my (now ex)partner was pregnant with our first son (who is now 9 and a half) we had a very hard time telling her parents who are very homophobic. When Isaac was about 5 months old we went to her side of the family christmas party. I walked into a room full of her relaitves including her father and said "Isaac, here's your Grandpa". He got very angry, saying he wasn't the grandfather as he didn't knoe the paternity of the child (the donor was known to us but not to him). I said that he was a grandfather as his duaghter gave birth to this child. He became even more angry and we had to leave. In a way the fact that my family were so wonderfully supportive made it harder to deal with her incredibly difficult and conservative family. As Isaac grew and then when Henry was born two years later the boys gradually "wormed their way into their grandparent's hearts". Although they are still homophobic atr heart they have embraced the boys as grandchildren and they have a pretty good relationship with them

MummyTwo, Of course no one knows how it will work out for your family but I would never ahve guessed that my children could have the relationship they do with these people when we first told them we were pregnant ten years ago... hang in there and keep venting!