Hi BandL, sorry my reply has taken so long and apologies for any typos as am typing one handed with my baby on my lap! I had my first 2 children with my ex DP. She was the biological mum for them both and we conceived them using a known donor, a 3ml syringe and it was a DIY job at home. We were lucky to conceive fair;y quickly both times (3rd go for DS1 and 2nd go for DS2). We did investigate using a clinic but in SA in1996/97 we didnt get very far at all with that! I left my ex DP a bit over 5 years ago and our 2 sons live half time (week about) with each of us (another separate and long story). My DP and I started TTC with a known donor almost 3 years ago (a different donor to DS1 and DS2). After about a year of no BFP we both had some tests, he had some sperm issues and I had a short luteal phase and low progesterone- but it was unclear how this may be affecting fertility. We saw an ob (not FS) and tried clomid with no success. At that point we were referred to repromed. You are correct that in SA you have to be "medically infertile" rather than "socially infertile" to access reproductive technologies. However, the definition of medically infertile can be somewhat subjective and is up to the individual FS. We started IVF (ICSI in fact), still using our known donor and conceived DS3 on our third cycle. He is now almost ten weeks old. It is a complex area and I would be more than happy to chat more with you either on the phone or in person over coffee etc. PM if you'd like to be in touch. Re a good GP, I have some suggestions and also believe that ALMA (Australian Lesbian Medical Association) now keep a register of medical pratitioners recommended by other lesbians. Hope this is helpful... have lots more I could say but one handed typing is not that easy! Good luck on your journey