New, need some advice.

[Lacey080790]

Welcome Lacey and Jessica.

I don't have any advice to offer, just wanted to say hi.

My partner and I have been ttc since June last year. We've had five home insemination attempts now with a known donor. Hopefully the next will be the one (maybe April)

I think it's really important for Jessica to feel involved right from the start of your discussions about conceiving. She needs to know that you are equal partners in the journey of becoming and being parents.

Maybe find a way for you both to spend the first few weeks together as a family so that Jessica can also bond immediately with your new baby.

Good luck to you both.

Cath

Yeah, she will be helping with the insemination, going to all the doctor appointments, she is also helping pick out the gear and other things so it's not just me doing it (plus... she's picky about what colors and patterns she wants, lol) and she will cut the cord and be the first to hold it. I think once we are actually pregnant she will feel better about everything. Thank you very much for your advice =D

[Indadhanu]

Shel had similar fears, and even during the pregnancy she worried and worried that Jazz would 'reject' her as mum, or resent her in some way... but as soon as Jazz was born she fell in love!

Theres actually a pic of when Jazz was minutes old on the warming table thing, holding Shel's finger, and thats pretty much been them two summed up! Shel also held Jazz for the two hours after the c/s, doing the skin-skin thing when I was in recovery, which I think was great for bonding.

Theres no question that we are both mums, and when I hear the garage door opening in the afternoon I yell out "Mummy's home" and Jazz gets all excited, her legs kick and she starts laughing, looks at the door just waiting for Shel to walk through, and her eyes just light up as soon as she see's her other mummy!

Of course, possibley try and train your partner in how to make the baby stop crying because thats a pretty big issue for me, Shel just hands her back (but then, thats universal to pretty much all new parents apparently!).

As for names, don't stress. We didn't have Jasmine on our list until the final weeks of the pregnancy, then it came to us and yeah, it was perfect! Our little Jazzy Jazz! So don't worry, you will find one!