Should we take a break?

**cath&denise** · October 12th, 2009, 03:13 PM

I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice, or just needing to vent...

We have gone through 6 unsuccessful home inseminations over twelve months and then last month our first (unsuccessful) IVF cycle and then I woke up with the dreaded cramping and my period this morning after a failed frozen embryo cycle. (Why can?t I wake up having lost 5 kilos and my period, not cramps and my period?)

We have no more frozen embryos, so if we go ahead again, we?ll have to go through the lot again.

Denise is away for work next month, so if we skip this month, we?ll end up missing a few cycles, and have to wait until February (with the clinic closing for Christmas) to try again.

I?m not sure what I want to do. When do you decide that it?s not meant to be? Or do I just need a break?

Denise is away this week, so I?ll speak to her tonight about what her thoughts are. I know that she?ll support whatever I want to do, as I will for her. But I just don?t know what I want?

Cath

**briggsy's girl** · October 12th, 2009, 03:22 PM

making decisions at the moment probably isn't the best idea - the day you find out a cycle has failed, you're usually a bit of a mess and you either go into stubborn "we WILL do this" mode, or uber protective "i'm not putting myself through this anymore" mode. neither one will help you decide

if i were in your situation, i would probably give it a go next month - not so much that i would want to push ahead (i kinda liked having time to lick my wounds) - but because the medicare system is supposed to change in January, so the out of pocket expenses will be much higher. if you can get a stim cycle in before the end of the year, and then only have the FET costs (if needed) after that.... kwim?

i'm really sorry to hear of another failed cycle - it's so damn hard

BG

**cath&denise** · October 12th, 2009, 03:41 PM

Thanks BG, everything that you said makes a lot of sense.
I don't really want it to come down to money, but it does come into the decision.
Thank you.

**cath&denise** · October 27th, 2009, 07:20 PM

We have gone again - and had 13 eggs fertilised. We're very surprised that 18 eggs were collected, and that so many have made it to fertilisation.

Our transfer is set for Thursday. I'm a little concerned that this will be another unsuccessful transfer.

Has anyone used assisted hatching? I'm thinking about it...

Thanks Cath

**Indadhanu** · October 27th, 2009, 07:25 PM

Oh wow! That sounds like great success!

I don't have any advice on assisted hatching, hope someone has some answers. Good luck

**miskilla** · October 28th, 2009, 09:14 AM

I dont know anything about assisted hatching either... but wanted to wish you the best of luck for thursday! Hope everyhting goes perfectly for you both

**cath&denise** · October 28th, 2009, 07:46 PM

Thank you for your support and best wishes Leasha and Miskilla.

We have requested assisted hatching for tomorrow's transfer, at our donour's encouragement. We're hoping that this is the 'edge' we need.