I have been meaning to start a thread like this for AGES, but didn't know where to start! I thought it would be great to be able to chat about all things Aspergers with others here. You might have Aspy tendancies (like me!) or you might have a loved one who has AS and you need to chat/vent/get support/ask questions about it.
My own background: My family on my dad's side has a history of Aspergers Syndrome. My dad and brother are undiagnosed, but definitely have it. My brother's 16 year old daughter has been diagnosed and a male cousin (who behaves EXACTLY like my brother) has been diagnosed. My sister and two aunties all have traits, there are more, but I won't bore you all .
I have only been learning about my own Aspy-ness over the past 12 months, I never really put 2 and 2 together before that. It has been eye-opening reading about it, it has really helped me understand myself and also to remove a lot of "what is wrong with me?" thoughts. I wouldn't say I have AS, I just know I have a lot of traits. I am actually a pretty social person so it probably wouldn't be easily spotted in me.
I read through sites explaining AS in children and think "That was me!". I had much stronger Aspy traits when I was a child/teenager, but I have adapted and learned over time so it is much less obvious now.
Anyway, that is a little spiel on me. I'd love to chat more as things arise, but I'd also like to chat and maybe start a support network here on BB for those with AS, AS traits or those with a loved one with AS.
I don't proclaim to know everything AS, I really don't, but I'm enjoying learning about it and hope we can all learn together
Hi Trish,
great idea this thread. Suspect my DH may have some AS traits. Am going to be watching this thread to see what I can learn and participate where I can. Can you point me in the direction of what you have been reading that has helped you understand?
Hi Anney, thanks for joining me! I have found a fantastic blog called Life With Aspergers that has been so helpful. The guy who writes it explains things so well and I find reading the comments in his blog posts equally as helpful. It would be very helpful for a wife who is trying to understand her DH. I will PM the link to you if you like? I have also found useful information thanks to Google, also various links I've read that people have shared on FB, I should have bookmarked them so I could share them!
If anyone has some good resources, please share
Tash - You don't need to ask, of course you can read along, and please feel free to join in! Even if it's not AS you are dealing with (or maybe it is?), we might all be able to help each other work out how we tick
I'm here! Watching tv with dh, so I can't stop. Tried to get some books from the library but there were none there, will go to a different one tomorrow. Hopefully Sibbie will come in, if not I can pm you a link Anney.
My DH hasn't been diagnosed with AS, but DD's ASD psych has said that he so has it but that because he's successful in his career and personal relationships a diagnosis would be counter productive. I'm an introvert (bet you wouldn't have guessed that) and therefore find social gatherings draining on my emotional tank rather than invigorating, this means we get on well because while I can play the social game, I'm not always forcing him into it and I'm happy for us to keep to ourselves most of the time. Because he can't read cues he has a tendency to go about a topic long after people have lost interest, and we have invented our own form of sign language, so if he sees me looking at him and rubbing behind my ear he knows he has to shut up. We generally don't have any issues between ourselves, at least any more. The rules of engagement we set up first year of marriage and years of practice have helped a lot, but we have been having some AS related issues lately regarding tone. DH is very monotone but also speaks very fast, but sometimes the best way to cut through to my ASD DD is to change the modulation of our voices and speed of our instructions, which is something he finds very hard to do. He's always complaining that she doesn't listen to him, but then his little mini me (they are SOOO alike in many ways) can't hear him when he speaks his normal way. It's a point of frustration at the moment.
I've said it before but I'll say it again (mainly coz I've gotta spread the love) - Yeddi, you're AWESOME. I just told DH about your sign language, and he got all sheepish and said 'I kinda do that, don't I?' Hehe, he so does that. So we're gonna work out a language of our own.
I'd be interested in some examples of your 'rules of engagement' as well. I was going to sit down with him and we'd write out what we want from our relationship, and how our partner can help us achieve it, but I think your rules will be easier to get across. Worth a shot anyway, especially if it's worked for you.
This is exactly the kind of chat I'd imagined, not sure about Trish though
ETA - Ohh, I feel like crying I'm reading through this PDF on the website - so many things Professor does are here! So many things I thought he didn't care about, he didn't pay attention to, he couldn't give a wet slap...they're all here, and I'm not crazy!
I'm gonna try and convince him to come into this thread and post from his perspective
Last edited by Bumperstump Cummerbund; April 11th, 2011 at 10:49 PM.
hmmm. I just read through a list of female aspergers symptoms. I certainly can tick a number of those boxes but I'm not sure. I have been dx with ADD which I understand has some overlap. I believe my Dad and at least one brother have aspergers or ADD tendencies.
I'm not sure I fit in here, but I'll read with interest, if that's OK.
Does anyone have a good link to a site that has a list of symptoms for women?I can't find a lot on the Internet and I'd be interested to have a read. I've always had very strong sensory issues and I guess I'm a little, um, weird??
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