Anything by Tony Attwood is worth reading.

My DH hasn't been diagnosed with AS, but DD's ASD psych has said that he so has it but that because he's successful in his career and personal relationships a diagnosis would be counter productive. I'm an introvert (bet you wouldn't have guessed that) and therefore find social gatherings draining on my emotional tank rather than invigorating, this means we get on well because while I can play the social game, I'm not always forcing him into it and I'm happy for us to keep to ourselves most of the time. Because he can't read cues he has a tendency to go about a topic long after people have lost interest, and we have invented our own form of sign language, so if he sees me looking at him and rubbing behind my ear he knows he has to shut up. We generally don't have any issues between ourselves, at least any more. The rules of engagement we set up first year of marriage and years of practice have helped a lot, but we have been having some AS related issues lately regarding tone. DH is very monotone but also speaks very fast, but sometimes the best way to cut through to my ASD DD is to change the modulation of our voices and speed of our instructions, which is something he finds very hard to do. He's always complaining that she doesn't listen to him, but then his little mini me (they are SOOO alike in many ways) can't hear him when he speaks his normal way. It's a point of frustration at the moment.

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