I don't like the totally buff guy either, but I do like a guy who looks after himself. My DH runs and does weights at home, but is also a little squidgy. I like him like that, and I think he's just perfect as he is, though he thinks he needs to lose weight. As long as he is healthy and happy. He's a naturally big man, at 6foot and 100kg. He lost weight a while ago and got down to 90kg and to me he looked anorexic. I hated it and told him he had to eat. Luckily he loves his food too much and he listened to me!