Leasha, has your partner considered quitting with you at all? I started quitting when I found out I was pregnant. It has been a gradual process, more to do with psychology/identity than the actual physical craving. DH did not try to quit at the same time I did (though to be fair he cut back a bit), it was probably about six months of me really struggling before he quit, too. I liked being a smoker, I liked smoking, I loved a cup of black black coffee with a smoke in the morning, and I'd also given that up. He would give me the Look if I lit up and he saw me, but I'd always point out he was smoking, too. And I never hid from him when I smoked.

Eventually he started to see that his smoking was affecting me, and therefore the health of our baby. He got it that we're in it together and it's not just down to me to be making all the changes and being responsible and giving up things I enjoy. Since he's been wearing patches and quit buying smokes its been that much easier for me, I've had maybe 5 in the past month. It was important to me not to push him into the decision, I knew he had to decide for himself (though I didn't have that luxury..) for it to be a lasting decision, but he just couldn't keep smoking when I was quitting.